Thursday, May 27, 2010
It's a good thing I was wearing makeup
Good thing. Because I found myself at the front of the room with a microphone, saying the words I never dreamed I'd ever say: "I'm Sunshine Cowgill, and I'm your Booster Club President for next year. T-shirts are on sale in the back of the room." That was what was on my cue cards. I swear. I just repeated what I was supposed to say. I was a little shocked, but what could I do? All those people were in there, potentially looking at me as I mouthed the words..." ". Yeah, that's right, I was speechless.
So how did I step on their trap? How did I not see the smirks on their faces? I swear there were smirks. I knew something was up, but I didn't think I'd fall for it. Guileless, I just repeated the words. It's true, I was tricked. But I could have simply not said it. I could simply have said, "I'm so sorry, I can't do it." But the truth is that no one else would step up and do it. Okay, maybe someone would. But who? When? I was worried that my son's school wouldn't have a Booster Club President, for Goodness sake.
People, there are doers and do-noters. There are commitmentphobes. There are full-time employed single parents. But I have discovered that the amount of stuff a person has on his plate doesn't seem to have anything to do with whether or not they step up and volunteer for something. People are just simply leaderless, or maybe they are fearful of getting in over their heads, or they are selfish.
Sure, the meetings aren't that fun. We don't have cocktails and play games. It's business. But it's business that needs doin'. And plus, there are some really witty, fun people that I've met and become friends with. I owe all my current local friendships to my involvement in some way or other with my children's education and activities. I have fun at meetings. (Prolly cuz I can't keep my mouth shut, but hey.) I crack jokes. They may or may not be funny, but I'm having fun, anyhow. Who cares? I show up. This is all part of my life, part of what I do all day, and I actually think I'd miss it if I quit it all. (Though I'd get a lot more sleep!) Those moments driving across town, when you're talking to your kids in the rear-view mirror? That's your life. You are spending time with the people you love. You are talking to them and teaching them and learning from them. Those conversations with other parents after pick-ups and drop-offs, on the sidewalk, in the driveway? That's your social life. And I don't mean that in a bad way. I mean, not every moment is a red carpet moment. Not every evening is a sunset on the beach evening. There is a great deal of joy to be had in the little transitions when you see your friends and spend time with your children. These are smell-the-roses opportunities. There are actual roses by the sidewalk, know what I mean?